Dear
2016, I welcome you with a heart full of expectations this time around. Before the
ending of 2015, I had the opportunity to read this amazing speech gave by Oprah
Winfrey at a Stanford graduation. The speech was all about feelings, failure
and finding happiness. It really opened my mind and heart to some things (aha
moment) and I said to myself that’s exactly the three key things I will be
holding on to in 2016 to make good decisions.
I’m expecting
to be very happy. By putting God first and accepting myself. And i also seek to
serve and help others. I’m not going to pretend to be something that I am not.
I will
still be the same old girl who smiles at everyone just to brighten their day. The
girl who put the needs of others before hers. The girl who truly believes that
love conquers all and it comes to only those who believe and does not give
up. The girl who makes people happy all
the time. Why? Because I am who I am at all times. No bullshit, no fucking
filter; just NaNce Adu Bediako. So I will go out there, own that shit and show
the world who the real NaNce Adu Bediako is. So here’s is what I’m going to
live with; feelings, failure and finding happiness.
As human
beings we feel every moment in our lives, whether positive or negative. Oprah
described feelings as the GPS system for life. The
trick is to learn to check your ego at the door and start checking your gut
instead.
So, lesson one, follow your feelings. If it
feels right, move forward. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
On Failure. Now I want to talk a little bit about failings, because
nobody's journey is seamless or smooth. We all stumble. We all have setbacks.
If things go wrong, you hit a dead end—as you will—it's just life's way of
saying time to change course. So, ask every failure—this is what I do with
every failure, every crisis, every difficult time—I say, what is this here to
teach me? And as soon as you get the lesson, you get to move on. If you really
get the lesson, you pass and you don't have to repeat the class. If you don't
get the lesson, it shows up wearing another pair of pants—or skirt—to give you
some remedial work.”
“And what I've found is that
difficulties come when you don't pay attention to life's whisper, because life
always whispers to you first. And if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later
you'll get a scream. Whatever you resist persists. But, if you ask the right
question—not why is this happening, but what is this here to teach me?—it puts
you in the place and space to get the lesson you need.”
On finding happiness. Be a part
of something. Don't live for yourself alone. This is what I know for sure: In
order to be truly happy, you must live along with and you have to stand for
something larger than yourself. Because life is a reciprocal exchange. To move
forward you have to give back. And to me, that is the greatest lesson of life.
To be happy, you have to give something back. The lesson here is clear,
and that is, if you're hurting, you need to help somebody ease their hurt. If
you're in pain, help somebody else's pain. And when you're in a mess, you get
yourself out of the mess helping somebody out of theirs. And in the process,
you get to become a member of what I call the greatest fellowship of all, the
sorority of compassion and the fraternity of service.
Big shout to all my readers out there….A very
Happy New Year! And thank you for reading.
BALLERS (THE ROCK)
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