A DESCRIPTION ABOUT MYSELF (MY SOCIOLOGY ASSIGNMENT)

                 Another semester has began and i was introduce to the new subject "sociology". She, i mean the lecturer gave an assignment on the first week and i was supposed to give a candid description about myself and the challenges in my life. i was contemplating whether to do it on not since i was afraid of the things i was going to discover whiles writing my assignment but i took the chance anyway. with the help of stageoflife.com ,i was able to come up with this piece. of course i got some of my references there but it was exactly what i felt and i could relate to it. so question one is the description, two is the challenges and three is how i solved or how to improve on it. so here it goes:

             1                    Sometimes it is hard to introduce yourself because you know yourself so well that you do not know where to start with. Let me give a try to see what kind of image you have about me through my self-description. I hope that my impression about myself and your impression about me are not so different. Here it goes. My name is Nancy Adu Bediako. I am almost 23 years of age. I was born on the 22^nd of May 1992. I am a big boned person always piling up weight so I’m very conscious about myself. I've been a victim of bullying back in Junior High School and Senior High School because of my weight. I am the only child of my parent. I haven’t seen my dad is 12years. I am a bright, outgoing, enthusiastic person with a zest for life, who is willing to undertake any task. I endeavor to see any role through to completion. I don’t work well in all teams, have a good sense of humor and am considered a very easy person to get along with. There are many things I like to do, to see, and to experience. I like to read, I like to write; I like to think, I like to dream; I like to talk, I like to listen. I like to see the sunrise in the morning, I like to see the moonlight at night; I like to feel the music flowing on my face. I’m a fan of country music and any good other music genre. I like to look at the clouds in the sky with a blank mind, I like to do thought experiment when I cannot sleep in the middle of the night. I don’t like to sleep early, I like to get up late; I like to be alone, I like to be surrounded by people; I really like to make the people around me very happy.

                     I am intelligent, interested in knowing all things and ready to share my thoughts. I easily get offended, quick tempered but I would rather say I’m highly emotional and sensitive. I am a talkative and I’m good at giving advice but I don’t take my own advice which is very sad. I react to matters quickly and I easily forgo things.  I get bored easily with things so it’s very difficult for me to stick to one thing; of course I am a Gemini. I am passionate about people so I do more for them and they take advantage of me in the end. I like delicious food. I like good books and romantic movies. I like to laugh. I am intelligent, a very fast learner and when I set my mind to don something, I always make it a point to finish it. I am a proud Mormon (The Church Of JESUS CHRIST of Latter-day Saints). I have learnt a lot since I've been a member of this church. I went from being clueless about what my priorities in life was to finally knowing it. I still contemplating on whether to serve a mission to win soul for Christ or not. I am a seminary teacher, young single adult president and a primary secretary in my church. My greatest achievement so far is losing 80 kilograms of weight. When it comes to my love life, I have never been successful in one.

                      I live with my mother. She’s a very good woman. She took me through school and held me up ever since my dad left. I always dreamt of going to Austin, Texas. I always wanted to be a great musician, like Carrie Underwood who sang "forever changed", or like Taylor Swift who sang "Tim McGraw". They have influenced millions of people through their music. I wanted to be a runway model just like Tyra Banks and a great actress like Sandra Bullock. I also wanted to be a great psychologist, like William James or Sigmund Freud, who could read people’s mind. Of course, I am nowhere close to these people, yet. I am just someone who does some teaching, some research, and some singing. My main limitation is underestimating my own ability, and in some situations, not pushing myself as far as I could through fear of failure but my dream is still alive.

2.            Growing up has never been easy and of course there has been lots of challenges and problems I’m still face and I’m going to be brutally honest about mine. One of the first challenge is the absence of my father. People often say that the most influencing and significant people in one's life are their parents. This past year I lost the opportunity to be able to share my life with my father. He chose other various material items and relationships over me, and I had to accept that. My father decided that his little girl was not as important as he said she was, and that "little girl" moved on in her life and became a much stronger person because of it. Ever since I was young my dad always showered me with love and praising gifts, but when he went away, everything changed. I was twelve years old and struggling with emotional confusion due to the neglect of fatherly love. I tried to combat these feelings by brushing off the little things and trying not to experience pain. The situation just kept getting worse. As time passed, my father continued to not exemplify his love for me through actions and elucidated the fact that I was not important anymore.

                Self-hate and self-consciousness. I would like to take you back to class six. The word judgment had no meaning to me. I didn't know that people judged others based on looks and personalities. It was that class that my teacher told me, "You're fat." Though he didn't know it, and at the time I didn't either, those two words would unravel everything about my life for the next ten years. Those two words introduced me to the idea of self-hate. And I can assure you, the self-hate lasted much longer than the time it took for him to say it. As life moved on, I began to forget the words. But I never forgot the effect of them. I started my first diet in Junior High and was on and off of them until my freshman year which I’m still doing. As I went into High School. Entering high school for the first time with a large liveliness in my heart soon became something I regretted that very first day. My self-confidence shattered once I started seeing multiple people who inspired me but also tortured my own being, because I was “Fat”. Second year in High School, I decided that I would never be good enough. I hated everything about myself. This started with a depression and seclusion from all of my friends and family.  

                  Distance doesn't sit down well with me. I don’t know how to deal with someone when there’s distance between us. Normally I tend to stop talking to them or always pick up a fight with them. Distance has ruined so many opportunities for me and it’s still in progress because of how I relate to it.

3.              With the help of my loving mother, I stood up to my father. My mom has always been a positive influence in my life. She is the parent I have always looked up to. She is such an honorable, strong, woman and has helped mold the person I am today. When my father started to show disinterest in me, my mother was always by my side. Whether it was giving me advice or just lending a shoulder to cry on. She taught me that people sometimes cannot be changed no matter how hard we try and she taught me how to be a stronger person and realize that my own personal feelings are what matters the most. This past year I decided to truly change my life for my own health. I decided to move on, in a life without my father. At first it seemed hard and almost impossible, but with the support of my mother I grew strong. Not only have I felt stronger as a person, but I have been more driven in all aspects of life. I used to have neutral feelings about school, but this past year I have wanted to prove to my father and myself that I am deserving of love and care. I also have strived to be in the university now.

                I was able to lose a huge amount of weight but it doesn't just make the self-consciousness and the hate go away; at least it has made me free from the bullying and hateful words of others and a little confident. I’m still on the dieting spree, I check my weight everyday. Even though I’m struggling somehow I still managed to keep the weight balanced. Never going back to what I used to look like. For the rest of the problems and challenges, I’m still trying to figure them out and their solutions for it.